This is the first in a series of articles which I've written for guys (and maybe girls too) who want to find partners from Asia.
These articles are very much written for total newbies in mind. By newbie I mean:
- You might never have travelled to Asia before. You might not even have a passport.
- You might not have dated an Asian woman.
- You don't speak any SE or East Asian languages.
- You might know absolutely nothing at all about the Far East.
- You might not have used an online dating site like Asian Love Connections before.
- And then there's the whole ladyboy dating thing (Asian Love Connections is particularly popular with guys who are interested in dating the so-called 3rd sex).
Before we dive too much into the technicalities of Asian dating, it's important to have a bit of a reality check. So in this article I'll spell out *exactly* what you're letting yourself in for if you go through with your idea of finding a partner from Asia.
OK so before you get too far into an overseas wife finding mission, a heads up about costs.
To put it bluntly, it's EXPENSIVE to find a partner from another country.
A lot of guys seeking an Asian partner are unwilling to spend $100 on membership of one of the more popular dating sites out there. Believe me, $100 is a drop in the ocean when it comes to dating women from Asia (or from any country for that matter).
So how much does it cost to find an Asian wife?
This is pretty much an open-ended question. It really comes down to how long it takes you to find somebody you fall in love with. That can take hours, months or even years.
But if you want a ball-park figure of how much it is likely to cost, $10,000 USD is often bandied around.
On top of that, make sure you can support your new bride when she's finally back in your country. Remember she might not be able to work, especially if she doesn't speak the native language of your own country, or she might have visa restrictions to begin with.
In a future article I'll try and break down the costs in more detail, so you can see exactly how much this is all going to cost you.
Emotional and Physical Stress
As you'll no doubt know if you've been in a relationship before, the whole love thing can be stressful, and it's all too easy to get horribly hurt inside. To make matters worse, long-distance relationships can be torturous.
Before you start looking for love in Asia, it's a good idea to make sure you're in tip-top mental health. If you've just come out of a relationship, then take things slowly, and allow time to heal the worst of the emotional turmoil.
It's also a good idea to make sure everything else in your life is stable. That means getting as healthy as possible, getting stability in your work life (if you're working), and get your financial affairs under control (especially existing debts if you have them). Also be careful if you have any other major stresses already going on in your life, like family problems for instance.
Are Asian Women Really Better?
It's worth doing a bit of soul searching and ask yourself WHY you want to look for an Asian bride.
Plenty of men think Asian women are wonderful and so much better than the women in the United States|England|France|Australia|Canada*.
From my own experiences of Asian dating, plus those of other guys I've met, it's pretty much apparent that Asian women aren't necessarily that much different to the women back home. So beware of the grass is greener syndrome.
So it's probably a mistake to date Asian women because of bad experiences with Western women.
Better reasons for dating Asian women include:
- You find Asian women exotic and attractive (there's nothing wrong with so-called Yellow Fever).
- You're interested in Asian culture, and maybe even dream of living in Asia some day.
- You're interested in dating ladyboys/transsexuals/transgender persons, of which there are many more in SE Asia than there are in other parts of the World.
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The Learning Curve
A final reality check is that looking for a partner from another country involves a very steep learning curve. So spend as much time as you can researching every aspect of your journey. And if you have any particular questions, then remember to join our free forum, where you can post any queries you might have about the whole process.
The good news is that we humans are good at learning news things, but it does take time. So if you've just started your search for an Asian bride, then take things slowly for the first 3 months or so. Sign up to some dating sites and just do some window shopping, so to speak. This is what I did at first, but with hindsight I'd wished I'd taken things even more slowly than I eventually did.
One way you can help yourself out is by making up your mind which country's ladies appeal to you most. Focus on a single Asian country will allow you to develop an in depth knowledge of that country's language(s) and culture. It will also help you a lot when it comes to spotting scammers and ladies who are best avoided.
In a future article I'll post more suggestions about which country might be a better place for you to search for an Asian bride. In the meantime, check out the Girlfriend-O-Matic and see if it can help you decide which country is a good place for you to start your search.
Finally, my own experiences have taught me that you should:
- Take a light hearted approach to finding an Asian wife. Don't take life too seriously. It could all go horribly wrong, and if it does it's better to approach it with humour.
- Don't be in a rush. Take things slowly.
Enjoy your search for an Asian bride!